Overprotector

YOUR RESULT?

OVERPROTECTOR

Overview of the 'Overprotector' Success Saboteur Archetype™

(Copyright Natasha Bray 2023)

If you have a strong ‘Overprotector’ Success Saboteur you crave more success but deep down also fear it is not safe in some way - this keeps you stuck, going around in circles, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. It stops you taking the positive risks and action needed to create more success. Usually, there needs to be a big crisis point or drama for you to change something that isn’t working. You probably felt unsafe many times in childhood - home- school or both. Playing safe is keeping you small and unfulfilled and limiting your naturally BIG success potential. You have deep blocks around how you perceive success and how safe you are to be your naturally successful self.

2 Key Presentations of this saboteur in business:

1. Stops us taking the risks we need to take to become more successful, feel stuck, stay small and never get out of survival mode.

2. Have already grown a significant level of success then something triggers the Overprotector. You lose your flow, start to fear making changes, become overcautious and slower at making decisions. Can lead to business plateauing or going backwards.

Overprotector Success Saboteur Beliefs

Success is not safe / dangerous
If I am more successful than others, they will be jealous of me.
I need to protect myself
I am not allowed to outshine my mother/siblings/ friends.
Staying where I am keeps me safe
Change scares me
Something bad might happen to me if I have ‘more’ than what I have now

Overprotector Success Saboteur Feelings

Feels reassured and safe when there is routine, rules and familiarity
Feels there have been times where success brought a lot of pain and confusion
Feels a certain amount of success is ‘safe’ but any more than that isn’t
Feels especially worried about other women’s views and reactions to her success
That isn’t ‘allowed’ to be more successful than others close to her, such as mother, siblings, friends, peers or mentors.
Scared to take risks and change what is working ok for something that could work better

How the Overprotector Success Saboteur Archetype™shows up in self, personal relationships & business

Anxiety or high functioning anxiety
Going around in circles with business decisions
Fear of change which keeps you stuck or going backwards in your business
Not completing the things that will bring you more success
Huge amounts of overwhelm and procrastination
Stay in relationships (personal and business) if believe keeps safe in some way - even if they are not healthy or fulfilling
Holding onto or using weight or health issuesas a ‘shield’
Overcautious about changes or doing something new
Overprotective of own children or loved ones
Constantly plays down or hides her successes.

Origin of the Overprotector Wound

The Overprotector Success Saboteur Archetype is activated as a Survival Strategy when a child experiences wounding to their sense of safety and especially when that wounding around safety is perceived to be linked to successes. E.g. A mother who didn’t protect from abuse or a parent, sibling or friend who was never happy for (or felt threatened by) your successes, punishment, jealousy or criticism for successes.

Your Biggest Gift Hiding Behind it: The Gift of Resilience

You (yes YOU) are here for big things! You are destined to have it ALL. The world truly is your oyster. But every business journey has ups and downs - your resilience as an entrepreneur is essential to your success. When you unlock the Gift of Resilience you are able to take everything in your stride and feel safe to hold much higher levels of success.

Next steps to transform this:

Mindset work just doesn't go deep enough. You need to uncover and heal the True Root Wounds of your 'Overprotector' Success Saboteur and imprint INNER SAFETY, COURAGE & RESILIENCE on the 5 levels of Healing™: Mind, Heart, Energy Soul & Action.

This healing allows you to unlock the untapped potential and hidden gifts behind the Overprotector Success Saboteur.

Things like:

Feeling safe to receive and hold higher levels of success in multiple areas (not just your business).
Taking fast, fearless action that drives your business forward every day
Creating safety and support in every area of your life
Igniting your creative spark
Releasing weight or health issues you have been using as 'protection'.
Come to a place of deep inner safety so that you have the courage and resilience to be your most successful self

Before you go, your Primary Saboteur is only one piece of the puzzle. There are 5 key Success Saboteur Archetypes™ stopping you from your next business (and life!) uplevel. Knowing and working on all 5 is essential to upleveling your beliefs, business and bank account!

Here is a short summary of the other 4 Success Saboteur Archetypes blocking you (remember you have all 5 in you!):

The Imposter Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘Imposter’ has achieved a degree of success in her life but she believes it’s down to luck, fluke, mistake or chance and does not feel successful internally. She doesn’t truly believe that she is as successful or intelligent as others believe her to be and may even fear being ‘found out’ as not good enough. She finds it difficult to trust her own decisions and intuition and can get stuck in a cycle of buying more certificates and courses because she doubts her capabilities and never feels like she knows enough (even though she does!). She is always looking to others for guidance. She doesn’t feel truly confident, more like she is putting on an act or pretence and often struggles with self doubt.

The Overgiver Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘Overgiver’ has a strong desire to take care of others and go above and beyond for them (possibly even rescue them), whether that is her clients, her family or her friends. Helping others feels like part of her life’s calling. Whilst this is an admirable quality to have, it can be at a cost to herself. She struggles to say ‘no’ even when something adds extra stress and strain to her and this can sometimes lead to underlying resentment and/or feelings of being taken advantage of. Her biggest struggle is knowing and believing she is enough, exactly as she is.

The ‘Hustler’ Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘hustler’ believes she has to really work hard in order to achieve the success she craves. It feels she’s trying so hard, people often comment how much and how hard she works but she feels her bank balance isn’t quite reflecting the effort. The thing is, even when she has a big month in her business or reaches a goal she’s never achieved before, she still isn’t satisfied and moves straight onto the next goal. Whenever she starts to see success in one area, it doesn’t seem to last long (hello feast and famine income cycle!) OR it comes at a sacrifice to success in another area of her life such as her health or relationships. She wants to be able to have it all, but is working so hard she is heading for burnout (or is already there). Her worth is highly based on her income earning ability and external achievements. She has some deep blocks around money, love and success that are holding her back from the success in all areas that she is really capable of.

The Outcast Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘Outcast’ is usually quite independent and tends to keep herself to herself. She has never really felt like she fitted in, but deep down she craves to feel accepted and like she belongs somewhere. She has a deep fear of rejection and this makes her ‘hide’ her true self from the world. Anything that involves being seen or speaking out is especially difficult for her as it affects her sense of safety. She keeps herself small as she believes nobody is interested in what she has to say and that ‘hiding’ or being invisible will keep her safe. Her biggest struggle is being visible. Despite this, she has dreams of being more visible, speaking on stages, writing books and creating a huge ripple of change in the world.

When you heal all 5 of your Success Saboteur Archetypes on multiple levels you are able to really unlock that Revolutionary Woman within - that incredible magnetic leader inside - so you can receive and achieve more in love, life and business - without the sabotage.

THIS is Success Mastery.

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