Overgiver

YOUR RESULT?

OVERGIVER

Overview of the ‘Overgiver’ Success Saboteur Archetype™

(Copyright Natasha Bray 2020)

With a strong ‘Overgiver’ you have a deep desire to take care of others and go above and beyond for them (possibly even rescue them), whether that is your clients, family or friends.

Helping others feels like part of your life’s calling.

Whilst this is an admirable quality to have, it is often at a cost to yourself.

You may struggle to say ‘no’ even when something adds extra stress and strain to you and this leads to underlying resentment and/or feelings of being taken advantage of.

Deep down you do not love or value yourself enough to reach the limitless success you are truly capable of.

2 Key Presentations of this saboteur in business:

Overgiving to everyone at a sacrifice to yourself. People pleasing, struggles to say no, undercharging (or not charging!) - wanting to ‘rescue’ and save others.
Overgiving, discounting & undercharging to those you have an emotional connection to as a form of staying safe (‘Fawning’)

Overgiver Success Saboteur Beliefs

I am not lovable for who I really am
I must please others in order to be loved/liked/accepted
I am not enough
It's not safe to be me
People need me to rescue/save them
Putting others needs before mine makes me a good person
It’s selfish to put myself first
Why does nobody give me as much as I give them?
People will leave me if I do not please them
I am not worthy of receiving

Overgiver Success Saboteur Feelings

Can feel taken advantage of and resentful but doesn’t dare express it.
Feels not good enough/ smart enough/ attractive enough/ successful enough
Feels is not allowed to have needs or express own needs as her needs are not important or less important than others.
Worries about people abandoning her or not liking her if she doesn’t overgive to them
Feel most worthy when helping/ giving to or rescuing others
Feels overly responsible for everyone else (especially clients)
Fears being abandoned or losing success

How the Overgiver Success Saboteur shows up in self, personal relationships & business

Lower levels of self love, always putting self at the bottom of the list leading to self neglect or self sacrifice in extreme cases.
Confidence issues and difficulties setting boundaries
Seeking others approval and permission rather than doing what you truly want (especially parents or mentors/coaches).
Overdeliver, at the sacrifice to yourself, your health or even your family/ personal time.
Base pricing on what you think others can afford not on the transformation you provide
Difficulties niching because you are trying to be everything to everyone.
No contracts in place and find it hard to uphold contracts
Attracting (or activating) very wounded and demanding (sometimes toxic) clients
Doing what others expect you to do, rather than what you really want to do
Constantly comparing self to others
Over delivering and undercharging (leading to burnout)
Not following your dreams because it isn’t what is ‘expected’ of you
Weight/ food, debt, overspending or relationship issues - can be mothering towards romantic partners or clients.
Mothering your team (and still some clients) and find they are not working effectively or taking responsibility for their side of things.
Struggle to fire or performance manage people not doing their job well enough (guilt). Blame yourself for not doing enough for them.

Origin of Overgiver Wound

The ‘Overgiver’ Archetype gets activated as a survival strategy as a child when you believed or felt that you were not lovable or enough unconditionally. This can be as a result of the expectations of people around you (especially parents), bullying or expectations you placed on yourself to be different or perfect to feel like you were loved or that you belonged or that you weren't safe to just be you. As a result you try to gain love, safety and acceptance through over giving to others and struggle to have healthy boundaries in life and business.

Next steps to transform this:

Mindset work just doesn't go deep enough. You need to uncover and heal the True Root of your 'Overgiver' wound and imprint UNCONDITIONAL LOVE on the 5 levels of Healing™ required to unlock Success Mastery: Mind, Heart, Soul Energy, Action. Unconditional self love is the ability to love and care for yourself without condition, as much as you do for others (i.e. allow yourself to receive as much as you give). This healing leads to activation of the your inner Receiving Queen so you can rapidly unlock higher levels of love, wealth and success.

Things like:

Being able to increase your prices and charge your new prices confidently because you know you are enough.
Having strong boundaries with clients, team and loved ones so you finally actually get to have time for you too.
No longer comparing yourself to anyone else (Competition? What competition!)
Truly deeply love yourself and know you are enough exactly as you are (priceless).
Show up as a woman who loves and cares for herself GUILT FREE which positively shifts everything in your life.
Become a MAGNET to clients, success and abundance.
Making more money in less time as a result of the above.
Stepping into your next level of leadership and being seen as leader in your industry.

But the thing is, your Primary Saboteur is only one piece of the puzzle. There are 5 Success Saboteur Archetypes™ stopping you from true success and freedom in your business and life. Knowing and working on all 5 is essential to upleveling your beliefs, releasing your deepest fears and unlocking your maximum potential.

Here is a short breakdown of the other 4 Success Saboteur Archetypes blocking you (remember you have all 5 in you!):

The ‘Hustler’ Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘hustler’ believes she has to really work hard in order to achieve the success she craves. It feels she’s trying so hard, people often comment how much and how hard she works but she feels her bank balance isn’t quite reflecting the effort. The thing is, even when she has a big month in her business or reaches a goal she’s never achieved before, she still isn’t satisfied and moves straight onto the next goal. Whenever she starts to see success in one area, it doesn’t seem to last long (hello feast and famine income cycle!) OR it comes at a sacrifice to success in another area of her life such as her health or relationships. She wants to be able to have it all, but is working so hard she is heading for burnout (or is already there). Her worth is highly based on her income earning ability and external achievements. She has some deep blocks around money, love and success that are holding her back from the success in all areas that she is really capable of.

The Imposter Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘Imposter’ has achieved a degree of success in her life but she believes it’s down to luck, fluke, mistake or chance and does not feel successful internally. She doesn’t truly believe that she is as successful or intelligent as others believe her to be and may even fear being ‘found out’ as not good enough. She finds it difficult to trust her own decisions and intuition and can get stuck in a cycle of buying more certificates and courses because she doubts her capabilities and never feels like she knows enough (even though she does!). She is always looking to others for guidance. She doesn’t feel truly confident, more like she is putting on an act or pretence and often struggles with self doubt.

The Outcast Success Saboteur Archetype™:

The ‘Outcast’ is usually quite independent and tends to keep herself to herself. She usually feels like she is different or has never really felt like she fitted in, but deep down she craves to feel accepted and like she belongs somewhere. She has a deep fear of rejection and this makes her ‘hide’ her true self from the world. Anything that involves being seen or speaking out is especially difficult for her as it affects her sense of safety. She keeps herself small as she believes nobody is interested in what she has to say and that ‘hiding’ or being invisible will keep her safe somehow. Her biggest struggle is being visible. Despite this, she has dreams of being more visible, speaking on stages, writing books and creating a huge ripple of change in the world.

The Overprotector Success Saboteur Archetype™:

If you have a strong ‘Overprotector’ Success Saboteur you crave more success but deep down also fear it is not safe in some way - this keeps you stuck, going around in circles, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. It stops you taking the positive risks and action needed to create more success. Usually, there needs to be a big crisis point or drama for you to change something that isn’t working. You probably felt unsafe many times in childhood - home- school or both. Playing safe is keeping you small and unfulfilled and limiting your naturally BIG success potential. You have deep blocks around how you perceive success and how safe you are to be your naturally successful self.

When you heal all 4 of these Success Saboteurs on multiple levels you are able to really unlock that Revolutionary Woman within - your most magnetic self - so you can lead yourself, your business and your relationships for true success & wealth.

THIS is the Ultimate Uplevel.

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